In the midst of a
(seemingly) important message I was posting on a whatsapp group, my
son came in rushing, explaining the rules of a game he had thought
up. He loves talking (maa par gaya hain :)), so I did what I usually
do...I ignored his animated
talk and went back to typing my message.
Now imagine two
parellel worlds playing out that moment, my child emptying his heart
out to me about this exciting new world he has created. And I am
standing right next to his universe, completely unaware of this
wonderful happening!
I had missed a
moment with my son because I did not think it was important enough.
Why do we only have
to pay attention to emergencies? Why does our child have our complete
attention only in times of crisis (exams for example, a crisis more
for us than them anyway). Why are the little everyday things with
these minions not important enough?
Is it because we
have stuffed 28 hours into a 24 hour day? Or the times we are at home
and physically with them, we are consumed by our need to ‘stay in
touch with the world’ via social media? Or because in our list of
priorities (which are longer than half marathons nowadays), spending
time being silly and playful with our child figures on the 21st
km?
So stop it, right
now. Whatever it is you are doing, and go and hug your child, kiss
him silly and tell him how much mom loves him. Next time he has
sometime to share, make him feel it is important enough for you.
I’m going to do
just that...give him my ear.
Love & light
Manisha
Wow , this is so much the need of the hour , so well said , these missed moments n time of the child wont ever come back again !
ReplyDeleteDear Manisha ,Your writing is so real , it touched my heart , so relatable . Thanks for reaffirming, yes the kind of attention we gv to our kids builts their security n self belief
Awaiting more blogs from u n sure sharing this one
Your fan ��
Thank you for all the inspiration & support Di.
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Manisha
Beautifully worded n apt...
ReplyDeleteVery rightly pointed out Manisha!
ReplyDeleteThis is really an amazing realization and points out to the Irony in the modern world. The way it is worded is effective and as a reader I can connect to each and every word being conveyed.
ReplyDeleteSad reality and a good reminder. I am very concious about touching my phone when Sathvik is around. There is no sillies, no "insignificant"s, no kidding...when they want to share or talk. Everything has a meaning behind and thoughts have gone into it in their genius brains . So we have to respect that!
ReplyDeleteGreat start to blogging...keep them coming!
Wow this ones an eye opener �� very well written
ReplyDeleteMany of us have still not realised that these little moments that we tend to ignore are the moments which make life a lovely journey...
ReplyDeleteVery well written.
I realized this very late Manisha. But now I make sure that I spend lot of time with her. I hope it is not ty late.
ReplyDeleteWell said
ReplyDeleteVery well said!!! Many times unknowingly these things happen n we regret later.... Thank you Manisha for this ...
ReplyDeleteNice write up Manisha!
ReplyDeleteYou said it right manisha.. Our kids will never be this age again. It's better to take out time for them than for social media
ReplyDeleteSo beautifully written dear friend... You should write more often.. Lots of love.. 💝
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